Sunday, February 5, 2017

Deep sadness


Its been more than three months since my father passed away, honestly I still carry the pain of his death inside me. His death left a deep hole inside my heart and no matter how hard I try to move on with my life the deeper that hole gets. There was no day since he died that I never cried. For his memories always bring tears in my eyes. I believe this pain will stay with me forever for his memories are permanently embedded in my heart and mind. I am fine with it, because his memories are worth the pain.

My dad was not a perfect father, but for me he was the best. He was my shield, my sword, and my strength. When I was young and until the day he died, just a mere sight of him made me feel secured. I considered him as my fortress who protected me from all the agonies of this life. Now that he is gone, I feel I have no more armor to face this world. It is like I am all alone in this battleground, fighting a war all by myself. Good thing he taught me how to be a strong warrior and molded me to be an independent and resilient survivor. Most of  all, he indoctrinate the power of seeking Divine guidance and to obtain inner strength in the event of despair. For my dad helped me realized that we cannot rely too much on other people to survive. Instead, we must use our own feet to reach our own destiny and to use our own hands to mold our future. The greatness of our future is dictated by our own actions and our failure is a product of our own decision.  

My dad was a big influence in my life and I know he will still continue to inspire my life until I leave this world. The legacy that I will hand down to the next generation will be shaped by his love and his guidance. I am sad that my dad has already ended his journey. But I am glad he is already happy in heaven.

I miss you dad... so much.

Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Dad, you are the best father ever

When I was young you taught me how to read and rhyme,
And showed me laughter under the smiling sunshine.
I remember that day when I stumbled with pain
But you carried me in you arms and the pain was gone.
You taught me the meaning of respect, to other beings and to thyself
You modeled these traits not only in thy words but by actions on oneself
You taught me responsibility to thy spouse and to our dynasty
You modeled these through thy affection to my mother and members of our family
The greatest kings have conquered the strongest nation
But believe me; no king is greater than your affection.
As you leave this world we know
But the love you’ve showed in my heart entombed
Today I may be sad because you said goodbye
For the angels in heaven took your soul up in the sky
If mothers are the best, fathers are the greatest.
Thank you for your fatherly love, it was the best.

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How not to mess-up your career

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I've been working professionally for more than twenty years already and I am thankful that my current and as well as my previous employers entrusted me management positions that are relevant to their organization. These positions that I held and the one that I am currently holding were able to enhance my character as a manager. 

One of the most challenging task a manager usually carry is supervision of their subordinates. Sometimes, it is not enough that a manager has an exceptional technical know-how on his particular field or if he is a graduate from Harvard University. So long as a manager has the skill to manage people, he will do wonders. 

Unfortunately, managing subordinates with different sorts of personalities can be very stressful and sometimes very damaging to the emotional health of the manager. Based on my experience, there are certain type of employees who are unhealthy to work with and generally do not provide any significant contribution to the organization. These employees often times possess bad and unprofessional behavior and are generally unproductive or inefficient in their assigned responsibilities. Depending on your organization, these employees are best candidates for termination or permanent dismissal from the company. 

For those of you who want to keep your job, here are my advice:
  1. Stop hanging-out with pessimistic co-workers. Management hates employees who constantly complain even on very small things. Pessimistic employees love to see the negative side of work and never appreciate even the best effort of the company. Hanging-out with these types of people will be a good start to mess up your career.
  2. Do not exceed your deadline. If you’re the type of employee who loves to overshoot or ignore deadlines you are a good candidate for termination.
  3. Do not spread “not so nice” things about your co-workers. Spreading  gossips and rumors about your co-workers or worse – your boss, will earn you a degree in Diplomatic Relations. If you want to experience cat-fight in your workplace, this is your ticket to that match.
  4. Do not bring your family problems in your workplace. It is very common for employees to put framed photos of their family right beside their desk. However, bringing family problems in your desk is a good way to destroy your focus at work.
  5. Insubordination should not be in your vocabulary. All of us love certain words.  But in the corporate world, the word insubordination is a no-no. So if you are really in-love with that word, try holding your mouth when your boss is around.
So, you want to mess-up your career? Now you know what to do.

Monday, October 10, 2016

Warning: Brain Fatigue

Did you know that our brain also suffers from fatigue? Yes, our brain like our body also needs vacation and quality rest. According to the study headed by Hans P.A. Van Dongen, Ph.D., at the University of Pennsylvania, lack of sleep may build up an excess of chemical called adenosine which causes brain fatigue. If you only sleep for 4 to 6 hours a night for 2 straight weeks, your brain will function as if you did not sleep for straight 3 days.

It is important that we give our brain a good night sleep. In the book written by James Maas, Ph.D. entitled “Power Sleep”, to keep our brain functioning properly, we must sleep at least 8 hours a night. Mentioned in this book were his “sleep advices” summarized below:
  1. If you feel tired anytime during the day, close your eyes 10 to 15 minutes. Even if you do not go to sleep, your brain will go on alpha relaxation rhythms.
  2. Avoid taking naps unless you are truly sleep deprived
  3. Stop snoozing the alarm clock. A person that is not sleep deprived do not need an alarm clock in the first place.
These tips will help your brain become alert and less prone to brain fatigue. If you feel you are sleep deprived, try hitting those pillows and take that much deserve sleep vacation.

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